When I was pregnant with Thomas I read all the usual baby books, Penelope Leach etc.
I soon came to realize that there was more to raising children than having them sleep on a schedule!
I realized that I could get cranky when I had to ask them the same thing multiple times. Such as you are going to be late for school. Get up and have breakfast. I am sure I probably raised my voice on a number of occasions. Ask the kids!
I may not have been as mindful of a parent as I wanted to be, but I can be an incredibly mindful grandparent. I can learn new tricks, the book offers exercises to help. Identify triggers and ways to make different choices in my reactions. Making good choices depends on our ability to process the upper parts of our brain in order to stress response. This part of the brain does not fully develop until early adulthood!
Bottom line
Control my stress response through mindfulness
Say what I see and don’t try to just fix the problem
I think my kids have read this book as this is what they all do.
Here are some examples.
Steve at Daisy’s wedding, saw that Sophie wanted to dance but was shy. He validated her feelings then encouraged her to show her fabulous moves. She danced long into the night, glo sticks flying!
Thomas and Kyla
When rex is hurt. They ask him to tell them what happened and how he feels by showing how much he hurts not fixing the problem but letting him talk it out.
Mark and daisy are teaching Morgan and Merritt to choose their words carefully when expressing opinions, replacing “yuk” with “this is not my favorite”.
Anna is so patient with Roland as he works on his goals. Never pushing or getting mad, but guiding him to success and respecting when he has had enough. Potty training is hard but Anna is taking it slow, at Roland pace. They will get there eventually with no shaming or blame but gentle encouragement.
I am so proud of my 👪
I just love the ideas I find on Instagram.
I plan on being a grandparent that follows my kids lead, Listening without judging
Controlling my emotions and responding with empathy not solutions unless asked for. Let’s see how I do!
Two Lemons 
Wow! How I can relate to your latest post…love your words of Wisdom.
“I plan on being a Grandparent that follows my kids lead, Listening without judging
Controlling my emotions and responding with empathy not solutions unless asked for.”
Just LOVE it – Well said Dear Friend!
Sending HUGs your way 🥰
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Thank you
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Bravo ! Tu as raison et je pense que c’est plus facile à faire lorsque nous sommes grands parents que parents….
Et te enfants réagissent comme ça parce que vous avez été de super parents !!!!! Bises
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Reaching for this goal is everything. Perfection isn’t the goal, but returning to the goal after a misstep is the process… at least for me. I appreciate the sharing. Teacher goals! = Grandma goals!♡♡♡♡
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So true. Working towards the goal is right
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Sounds like a really good book, thanks for the recommendation. I’m going to read it and let you my key take aways.
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Ibw I would Luke that
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I loved reading Raising Good Humans I really enjoyed the journaling and recommending self care; exercise, sleep, spending time with family and friends. I could help but think what a privilege it is to be able to practice mindfulness. I remember when money was tight, working full time and trying to juggle family, mindfulness was really difficult to practice and as I’ve become more financially comfortable it’s become easier to be mindful. I’d love to know your thoughts.
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Excellent guidance for us all❤️
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It’s not only your kids that have learnt from you! You have so much to be proud of.
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Thanks
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You’re too humble! I’ve barely cracked a parenting book, I just learn all my amazing parenting habits from being raised by you (and dad)!! Well… that and Kyla read every parenting book available. You’re an amazing, thoughtful mother, and an amazing, thoughtful grandma!
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Kyla has a big influence
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It’s wonderful to be at the time of life where our children are the good examples we seek to imitate! That has certainly happened to me over the past ten years. Love the “gentle listening rather than fixing” type of responding and I am working on it also. We are all just walking each other home … (Ram Daas)
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