https://www.funeralguide.co.uk/help-resources/arranging-a-funeral/planning-the-service/funeral-poems/she-is-gone-he-is-gone

I am not sure which line of this poem is my favorite! Probably the last, “you can do what she would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on” the question is how?

The book talks about 6 strategies. As a list maker. I wrote them all out!however the book boiled down to the last sentence. Accept and move on with your life. That’s what I want everyone to do. Enjoy your one precious life and don’t dwell in the past.

Stages of grief:

• Anxiety
• Anger
• Helplessness
• Relief
• Sadness
• Confusion
• Acceptance

The book has a lot of background research to support the central theme of how to grieve healthily. ” you can shed tears because she is gone or you can smile because she has lived” a powerful message. So read the book if you will but iam not going to go into all that you will be glad to hear!

So what is the magic formula to dealing with the loss? Well no big surprises really.

• a strong meditation and gratitude practice
• Eat well
• Exercise
• Allow all the emotions
• Take care of your tribe

There are said to be a number of stages of grief. The author says that they do not need to be experienced linearly. The other day I was sitting looking at rising wild and felt an overwhelming sense of sadness. I allowed the feeling then moved on. Covid has kept me from my family that has been hard. I think that is where the sadness came from.